This morning when I was monitoring my daughters Facebook page, which I do on a regular basis, I came across this post from one of her "friends"
"Kiss me like you miss me, fuck me like you hate me and when you are fucking someone else just fuck her like she ain't me."
Is this an appropriate Facebook status for a 15 year old girl? The answer is no. I know it's just a song lyric (thanks DRAKE) but that doesn't make it any less wrong.
Not too long ago this same girl had a status that said,
"It seems like all my guy friends just want the same thing from me."
Hmmmm, I wonder why.
Where is her mother? I am finding it hard to believe that she would feel like this is an okay thing for her daughter to be saying on Facebook, so I am assuming she just doesn't know it's there. The girl's father is a police officer, I am sure he has seen enough horrible things in his time to know it is unacceptable. Where is he? Why aren't her parents as upset as I am? Equally as disturbing is the fact that 20 of this girls friends "liked" it. What is going on?
This is horrible.
I remember turning up the radio so I could catch the lyrics to a favorite song, but most times I just sang it wrong. Now the kids can just google it and then post it on the Internet. Maybe not such a good thing.
I remember hanging out with my friends and laughing and acting stupid. But none of these antics were video taped on a cell phone and preserved on You Tube for all eternity.
I remember thinking someone was a dork or a slut, but I never picked on them or attacked them with words until they saw hanging themselves as their only escape.
I remember talking to my friends for hours and hours, even though we had just spent the day together in school. Now the kids talk and talk and talk, but they never even open their mouths. They say things they wouldn't say if they had to look the other person in the eye.
I miss those days. I
I believe it is my responsibility as mom to make sure my daughter is using social media and texting in a safe way. I don't think it's spying and I don't think it is unfair to her. I'm not her friend, I am her mother, her protector and her teacher. I deleted that "friend" and tonight we will be having a talk about why that girls post was unacceptable and the ramifications of that behavior, because that's the right thing to do.
I feel bad that the other girls mother doesn't feel the same way...